Not like a declared relationship, but like going out with kinda thing. LIke Mon see a movie with Anna and Thurs go get coffee with Stacy.
There’s nothing at all wrong with going out with more than one gal (or guy as the case may be) if you’re not in an "exclusive" relationship. It’s called "playing the field."
Now if you give a girl the idea that she’s "your gal" then go out with her bff – that’s not good.
OK so what signals will give a girl the idea that she’s "your gal?"
Anything passionate – kissing on the lips, drawing her close and "cuddling" in the theater, walking with your arm around her (or in her back pocket) – stuff like that.
Calling her up (or texting) just to "chat" for hours when you’ve just dropped her off.
A lot of texting/chatting during school hours.
Sitting with her at lunch all the time.
Waiting for her after school (unless you’ve arranged it ahead that you’re picking her up for a date).
Acting in any way other than strictly platonic.
Now, even if you’re really careful not to send "signals" that you’re interested in her, some gal will probably get the wrong idea and decide that once you ask her out, you two are a couple. That’s when you have to be firm about the ground rules – hey, I asked you out for a movie – not to marry you. I thought we had that clear. Then don’t ask her out again. Of course, she’ll probably be on Y/A whining that you dumped her after a couple of dates… but that’s her problem.
One way to handle things is to be a part of a group of friends who all meet at the mall to see Rocky Horror as a group. Do stuff with groups a lot – then maybe ask a gal out by herself every so often – but do a lot of stuff with your group of friends too.
Sorry this is long, but you asked a good question that required more than just a passing thought.
