Breaking up is hard to do. That saying exists for a reason. Ending a relationship, no matter how long it lasted, is never easy. Feelings are bound to get hurt. Sometimes breakups are filled with resentment, hostility and complicated emotions. Enduring a breakup can feel like tragedy. If you’re planning on breaking up with your partner, you want to do so in a way that will be easiest for everyone involved. You want to sever the relationship in a clean fashion. Unfortunately, you can never control another person or predict how someone will react to being broken up with. You can only control your own part and do what you can to avoid drama. Here are some tips to help you accomplish a drama-free breakup.

Pay Attention to Timing

If you want to break up with someone, there is no perfect time to do so. And if you’re unhappy in a relationship, you should never stay in it just to avoid hurting the other person. However, you should still pay attention to timing and try to choose a less painful option. For example, avoid breaking up with someone on or extremely close to their birthday or a major holiday. Also, don’t break the news minutes before your partner has to show up for work or class. There is no “right” time to breakup, but there are times that are more inconvenient than others.

Get to the Point

Don’t draw out a breakup with a long, lengthy speech. Over-explaining yourself or listing all the positive and negative aspects of the relationship won’t soften the blow. Get to the point quickly, and tell your partner in plain terms that you’re ending the relationship. Give a very brief explanation because no matter your reasons, it doesn’t change the inevitable fact that the relationship is over. Too much talking can lead to arguing, which will bring about the drama you’re trying to avoid.

Do It the Right Way

There are lots of ways to tell your partner you want to break up, but it’s important to pick the right method. You could choose to leave your partner a voicemail or text message because you hope to avoid an argument. However, this may only create more drama and in general is not very respectful. You’ll have to face the situation at some point, so do it immediately. Breaking up in person is the bravest way to do it. At the very least, call and speak with your partner on the phone.

Keep It Between You Two

Oftentimes drama is created by other people getting involved. No matter what the circumstances, don’t involve your friends or family members in your breakup. Do not bad mouth your partner to anyone. If word gets back it will only make the situation worse. Involving other people can only lead to embarrassment. No one wants the details of their love life to be common knowledge. A relationship is a very personal thing, and a breakup is, too. If other people inquire about the details, don’t talk about it. Politely decline to discuss things with anyone other than your partner.

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