The Basic TRUTH about men and what goes through their mind the first time they see you

Here is the basic TRUTH about men and what goes through their mind the first time they see you or go out with you.

And, then I’m going to give you a tip on how to make the BEST IMPRESSION possible, not just with a man, but with just anyone in your life - your co-workers, boss, clients, friends… anyone.

We are going to venture off into an area we’ve
never really talked about before, at least… not in this specific way.

We are going to talk about how your APPEARANCE affects whether or not a man will ask you out or call you again.

So the “physical” aspect is important, especially if you’ve had trouble in the past even GETTING a man to ask you out or calling you after a date.

So, here’s where the basic truth about men comes in:

Men are visual creatures first. They know RIGHT AWAY when they first spot you from across the room, or meet you on a first date or see your photo on an online dating site whether how you look “works” for them or not.

And, when you first meet a man, there’s a subtle decision process that goes on in his mind as soon as he sees you.

He either hits the ACCEPT button or the REJECT button in his mind, and there’s not much you can do after that all-or-nothing moment to change his mind.

You can be the most witty, funny, fantastic conversationalist.

But, if you made the WRONG impression on him with your appearance, he probably won’t be listening, or paying attention.

He’ll be “checked out.” And, that means that most likely, after this date, he won’t call you again.

It’s been my observation that many women are not quite so “black and white” in dating situations. They’ll give a man the benefit of the doubt, maybe wait to see what he’s about, what his personality is like… before shutting a man down because of how he presents himself physically.

Not all women, of course. Some are as quick to make that decision as a man, and if you’re one of these women, you know what I’m talking about.

So, maybe this is all an obvious fact to you and maybe it’s not.

And, maybe it feels a little bit like a shock, because when you’re honest with yourself, you see that a big part of your life (and your love life)is spent in a sort of AUTO PILOT.

You spend a great part of your life in a set ROUTINE.

You eat the same sorts of things every day.

Think the same kinds of thoughts, over and over.

Go to the same restaurants.

Talk to the same people.

And, you wear the same kinds of clothes and colors… sometimes for YEARS.

If you relate to this, it’s OK - we all do it. We all get comfortable in a set routine and style and it often takes a major event to get us to do and see things differently.

For example, how long have you had the hairstyle you have now?

How old are the oldest clothes in your closet?

When you’re getting ready to meet a man for a date, how anxious are you about what to wear?

Do you KNOW with complete certainty what impression your appearance makes on a man? Does he see you as sexy and fun, or does he think you’re insecure or indifferent?

When you get “decked out” to go out, does he get the impression you’re classy, or HIGH MAINTENANCE?

You may not even be conscious of how important your wardrobe and appearance is - you’ve just been doing what you’ve always done, based on what you think is supposed to “work.”

Maybe even based on the ideas and preferences you developed in high school!

You wake up each day, you do the same kinds of things over and over, and yet you expect a DIFFERENT result.

And, it just doesn’t happen.

What didn’t work for you last year STILL isn’t working for you, especially when it comes to men.

Why is that? These are moments where most women typically do the same thing, react the same way and say the same things to a man. And, not surprisingly, they get the same results!

One of the critical moments is the day you first set eyes on a man. What do you say with your body language to make him want to come over, strike up a conversation and ask for your phone number?

What you do with your clothes, your posture and even your voice either turns a man off or makes him feel INTRIGUED and want to get to know you better.

There are other critical moments that soon follow: What you do and say on a first date, when he doesn’t call you back right away, when you become physical together.

Here’s another couple of questions for you related to first dates:

Have you ever met a man on a date and felt turned off because he just kept going on and on about himself, and didn’t even think to ask anything about YOU?

Have you ever felt mesmerized by the connection and chemistry you felt on a date with a man, and went home so hopeful and happy only to be CRUSHED when he never called you again?

These two experiences couldn’t feel more different - in one, you feel like you can’t get away fast enough and in the other, you wish you could just fast forward to an amazing, real relationship with the man.

Most women approach first dates as all about getting to know a man and seeing if you have chemistry. The truth is that chemistry is the easy part that no one has to work or qualify for. It’s either there, or it isn’t.

What’s important on a first date is to see if there’s true COMPATIBILITY between you, without letting a perceived connection or chemistry get in the way.

How do you do that?

What questions do you ask? What do you look and listen for?

And, not just about the first date…

> When a man begins to act hot and cold

> When you sleep with him and wonder about exclusivity

> When you’ve been dating a while and you’re ready for a commitment from him

> When he says he’s “not ready” for anything more serious

> When you’ve broken up and now he wants you back (but you’re not sure)

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